TEXT: Pro. 27:15-16, Ecc. 7:26, I Cor. 13:1-8, James 5:16, Eph. 4:32, I Pt. 3: 1-2, I Pt. 3:7, Pro. 31:10-10, 25:11
REFERENCE: I Tim. 2:9-10, I Pt. 3:1-2, I cor. 11:15, II Cor. 3:18
MINISTER: PST. OMO GHANDI OLAOYE
Today, we continue with the series, Marriage in God's Perspective: The Role of the Woman. The focus from last Sunday was how the woman is expected to adorn herself in marriage, what this adornment entails, and how she can attain the level of adornemt the bible recommends. We would also take look at what God expects of a wife, when her husband is unbecoming in his attitudes. Come with me as we review this revelatory message from God's servant, Pastor Mrs. Omo Ghandi Olaoye!
In addition to what was stated in earlier posts, every godly woman is expected to pay attention to the way she adorns herself in order for her to be attractive to her husband. This adornment is not just an adornment of the physical appearance but also an adornment of character and personality. However, she is also expected to pay attention to the way she looks on the outside, doing so with modesty. She is also not expected to focus only on her outward beauty but also on her inner beauty. When a woman begins to focus excessively on how she looks on the outside, thereby attracting undue attention to herself, she is unconsciously taking the focus away from God and making herself the center of focus. This is not right and should therefore not be the practice in marriages. Modesty is a sign of submission to God. When a woman dresses modestly she is simply submitting herself to the word of God and to her husband. Indecent adornment on the part of a woman is a sign of dishonor to her husband. A woman who dishonors her husband does not have style, and lacks self-esteem, hence the reason she does all she can to reveal her physical body. Adorning herself modestly is a sign of respect to her husband and honor to God. Inner beauty for a woman is more important than outer beauty, because the inner beauty of a woman reflects her true personality. This inner beauty must be shown in the way she conducts, adorns and carries herself. More so, if the inner beauty of a woman is messed up, no amount of material or outward adornment would be enough to conceal or correct it.It is also important to note that outward embellishments may attract someone to you outwardly, but sooner than later, your inner character and personality would begin to surface. Your outward adornment can never prevent your inner character from coming out. In a case where a woman ignores her character and focuses on her outward appearance, she would only exude repulsion rather than attraction.
Just as a mirror reveals to the woman how she looks on the outside, offering her a way of checking her physical appearance, so does the word of God mirror the inner personality and appearance of a woman. Hence, the woman should always use the word of God in checking and fixing her inner faults and imperfections. Also, the woman is expected to be a gentle spirit and be of a kind-heart regardless of the attitude of her husband.
In Proverbs 31:26, the virtuous woman was praised for the wise use of her tongue. Every woman should learn to use her tongue wisely at all times. Also, in the book of I Corinthians 11:15, the bible says the woman’s hair is her glory. In a similar vein, the man is also the glory of the woman and a head over her. So, just as a woman takes good care of her hair, preserves it and wouldn’t do anything to destroy it, so should she honor and cater for her husband, not doing anything to dishonor, degrade or destroy him.
However, some women find it difficult to submit to their husbands because of their husbands' bad attitude. This shouldn’t be obtainable in any godly marriage. A woman who finds her husband to be disorderly and unbecoming in his conduct, should pray for him and look up to the hills (God) from where her help would come. Every godly woman should constantly be on her knees concerning her husband in order for him to come into the person that God has created him to be. In another vein, a husband’s bad attitude may be the result of his wife’s equally bad attitude. In this case, for such a woman to see a change in her husband she must be willing to first make a change. Even in a chaotic home, where a wife is being mistreated, she must learn to maintain a godly attitude, letting go and letting God to intervene. She shouldn't consider divorce. Divorce is not the best and only solution; it is not the will of God for any marriage. Regardless of what happens in the marriage, good or bad, the woman must learn to maintain a godly attitude and demeanor in the marriage. This is not easy to do, but every woman can if they will only ask God for the grace.
Furthermore, most relationships start up with physical gestures of romance, which are outward expressions of a person’s love for another. But when these relationships finally end in marriage, those same physical gestures alone will not be sufficient to keep the marriage going. Rather, spiritual fruits are necessary to maintain peace and harmony in any marriage. Let us not let the same fire of love with which we started the union, fade off with the progression of time. We must pay attention to the spiritual aspects of the marriage institution, because the institution needs the spiritual aspect to thrive. Marriage is a spiritual union, and it therefore needs spiritual means to keep it going. This will include prayer and constant adherence to God’s word and instructions concerning marriage.
My prayer is that no matter what you are going through at this time, may the mercy and grace of God be revealed in your marriages in Jesus name. And may your marriage be just what God intends it to be. Amen.
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